When he accepts and loves himself, he does not need the approval or love of another person, and he is likely to believe that he will find someone he will love and love. So, a bad date or rejection feels more like a detour on the road to a happy relationship than an overwhelming failure.
No matter how you try, it seems you cannot convince your partner that you are committed to them. Maybe your partner is sticky, jealous or protected by staying distant. Whatever the dynamic, they think you think the worst of them and fear that you will leave. So what can you do to show that you don’t need to worry?
Have you noticed how you leave a bad relationship just to find yourself repeating the same patterns in the following? You’re not alone. A recent study from the University of Alberta found that people tend to recreate many of the same patterns in their new relationships that they had in the old ones.
Do you tend to see evidence of your deficiencies and defects wherever you look? If you do, your brain is projecting those perceptions. It’s similar to how the Pokemon Go app makes virtual creatures appear on the sidewalk in front of you. When you learn to recognize your inner demons projected for what they are, you can begin to get rid of them.
